If you’ve ever had a reading with me, there’s a 75% chance that I’ve asked you this question. I’m not prying or fishing; I’m very happy not knowing the specifics of what you want. It’s very much a “yes or no” question when I ask this. If intent is three quarters of the law, clear desire is three points on the compass.
I don’t think you have to know exactly what that thing is; as I say in my FAQs, sometimes having a metaphorical Bag of Stuff is the only way to keep moving forward and not get stuck in trying to work out the details. (Look at The Fool’s knapsack! You can’t tell me they’ve packed perfectly.) Maybe you know how you want to feel at work, but you’re not sure about the specific industries or roles that bring about those circumstances. Perhaps you want deep, stable long-term romantic partnership that doesn’t make you feel trapped, but have no idea what that could even look like day to day or year to year.
It’s also very important that you don’t outsource the work of unearthing your own desires to me. That’s not my job! It’s up to each of us to keep asking and answering the question of what we want, and to make peace with the fact that what we want will change because we do. Intuition is a muscle but so is desire; so is dreaming, and so is the work of imagining of a better world.
Our sessions will be geared towards desire rather than forecasting because I want to make sure that you leave our session with clarity and a renewed trust in your own agency. I use the words desire and want because I take those concepts really seriously. We’re not trucking with whims and mere fancies here — what unanswered question keeps you up at night? What fully realised world do you mentally escape to when you’re dissatisfied? Desire indicates lack, yes, but it’s also information.
Some useful questions, either for yourself or to bring to a session:
I know what I want but how do I get there?
What other opportunities or possibilities am I missing because I’m locked in on what I want?
How do I stop holding onto a desire that no longer part of the future or life that I want?
Where in my life am I denying myself what I want? Is this a tactic that’s useful at this moment?
What’s the blockage around attaining my desires? Can it be dissolved, and if so, how?
If you’d like to explore further the idea that fulfilling your desire can be a really powerful force in your life, I’d recommend looking at the work of adrienne maree brown and Yumi Sakugawa 佐久川由美. Enjoy!